Engagements and promise of marriage: etiquette and traditions

Traditionally, the engagement announcement was made during a reception organized by the family of the bride for whom the calls were organized by the mother, while the ad itself was set out by his father.
The receipt of engagement was the opportunity to donate the ring by the boyfriend, who then became the official boyfriend. The engagement ring was returned by the girlfriend with a gift of equivalent value, such as a gold watch.
The company today has more time to informality and the slenderness that some traditions and rules dictated by etiquette, so necessary in the past, can be infringed without creating big problems.
Today, in fact, families are almost always aware of attendance, feelings and intentions of their children and therefore do not need formal and official speeches to announce the promise of marriage.
It 'still good that the boyfriend to go home of the future bride and ask her hand "to his father, is a nice gesture symbol that the beginning of a relationship based on esteem, confidence and involvement of families. This formality was a crucial time because the girls lived "relegated" in the house until the day of marriage under the control of the breadwinner father. Now that women have gained full independence and autonomy, it will be helpful for the girlfriend boyfriend eager to suggest some trick to "be nice" to the future father-in-law, making him understand that no one can usurp its role against the daughter.
And then ... the future will be a bride having to visit him at home! Most probably will not be the first time the girlfriend meet future parents-in-law, then there should be embarrassing silences. Once the betrothed felt obliged to appear in a "good girl", reassuring, a woman of the house which could have been taken care of her husband and children without any kind of problem: the girlfriend and then wore sober suits, took a calm attitude and so forth. Today, everyone tends to be spontaneous, just himself, becoming appreciated for their true talents, while always maintaining respect and education. Probably the betrothed will be "under observation" and will be a while 'is made under press "by the mother of him, but have enough common sense to understand that his mother is afraid of being set aside by his son and be able to calm in this sense: you can try for example farsela a friend asking her advice on what to like his son or if you fail in, has always maintained the rules of good education because a friction daughter-in-law - mother-in-law inevitably turns into a friction between spouses.
Once established family wedding in the womb, it is necessary that families are known, and even if you already know the etiquette of marriage wants to celebrate the event with an intimate lunch, which invite up to some other relative or friend close. Tradition has it that lunch is kept by the family of the bridegroom. On the morning of the lunch boyfriend betrothed to send a bouquet of white flowers. Eating the place of honor it is for engaged couples, they will face their parents to her those people to their right and left parents of the future bridegroom. On this occasion he give the ring of betrothal. At the end of lunch will be a toast to wish the new married couple. According to tradition, parents give him an object of gold for future daughter-in-law, which hopefully is a jewel of the family, with all the emotional and symbolic meanings to it tied.
If the parents of the boyfriend or girlfriend are divorced, the formula of presentation varies depending on the relationship between former spouses. If they have maintained a peaceful relationship and friendship, will be together for the occasion. Otherwise, you better invite them separately repeating the match. If the parents are divorced now being consolidated and other reports accepted in all respects by the children, lunch will include the current partner or companion. In general, as it has to do with the ball of emotions, the important thing is to always keep in every choice delicacy and tact, fully respecting the feelings and sensitivities of all persons involved.
Remember that in all these meetings, however, joy will be your guide, your trepidation, love that el'emozione you look in the loved one, and everything their parents and if they realize they will be happy, will be the Your small gestures by love and wish to share the future that escapes any hesitation on the part of families.