How to organize a marriage

To organize a beautiful marriage is not certain what simple. There are so many details to which to think: the church, the floral decorations, the bombonieres, the trip of wedding.... in short a rather great appointment. Following you will find a complete guide that will help you in the preparations from one year up to the day of the event before.



1 YEAR BEFORE

THE CHURCH

The first footstep to be done is to choose the church whether to get married you (clearly for a religious marriage). Every church has its procedure to follow and its calendar marriages. If not you desire to get married you in your parish you have to book you one year before. Once naturally booked the church the date has officially fixed!!!

THE HOUSE

If you have intention to purchase the house in which to go to live, at least one year before you have to conclude the contract of purchase, so you will have the time to do some inside job and to purchase the suitable furniture that at times have long times of delivery.

THE GUESTS' LIST

You word a first list of the guests. It will serve you to give an indicative number to the restaurant.

THE RESTAURANT

After having compiled an approximate list of the guests you can choose the restaurant with the proper room for your demands. If you are able you try to find not a restaurant very away from the church. Not the guests always feel like making so many kilometers.



10 months Before

THE PHOTOGRAPHER

The choice of the photographer cannot be improvised. You contact with advance a professional, viewing his/her precedents jobs. Considered that every photographer can realize a service a day and if you/he/she is already hocked in another marriage you/he/she cannot follow you. Generally the services are of 80/100 photos of various format and the films hard around mezz'ora. You try even to get from your photographer the promise that can be in your album some photos besides the canonical layings of the salient moments particular snatched of hidden: an expressive close-up of his/her/their bride, the weeping of the mother of the bridegroom, the cake on the whole face of your smaller little sister etc... an album with these moments will be really complete. You ask whose the ownership of the photos is. Many photographers don't surrender the rights on the photos that do. This means that the ownership of the photos (copyright) he/she remains to them. In practice, they holds back the negative ones and so you will be forced to return from them for possible reprints. It is illegal to reproduce images of which the copyright is not possessed.

COURSE OF PREPARATION Á. THE MARRIAGE

Who wants to get married in the church it has to obligatorily follow the course of preparation to the marriage. You follows in her parish or in his parish or in another parish with the void one it hinders some priest. The course lasts around 2 months, 1 time to week (but it varies from parish parish). The frequency is obligatory. I recommend you to follow him/it 10 months before (in line with the calendars of the parish) because from here all the turns they depart for then the documents.



6 MONTHS BEFORE

THE DOCUMENTS

Concluded the course of preparation to the marriage the priest it will release you a form (to the priest you will already have delivered the certificates of baptism and confirmation of both.). With such form he takes in common appointment for the oath. To remember himself/herself/themselves that from the oath it needs to marry himself/herself/themselves within 6 months and that the commune posts your publications for about 2 weeks (it has to remain published for 2 Sundays). After the publication it needs to bring the sheet of the publications in his parish if the course of preparation to the marriage has been taken near her parish (or vice versa). Here you/they must have exposed for 15 days. After 15 days the publications of the commune and the parish are brought in the parish where the course is followed. Here you/he/she will be filled out a form that must have brought in vicariato. From the vicariato it brings him the all in the parish where he/she gets married us.

RENTAL OF THE AUTO

The auto of his/her/their bride can be also the good auto of dad or a particularly near friend but the custom he/she would like a beautiful auto of epoch to rental with so much of driver in livery or even a carriage with horses and everything. In effects everything depends on the style that he/she is wanted to give to his/her own marriage. The main point is that the good sense and the good taste prevail. To the guide you/he/she can sit a brother of his/her/their bride or a friend of the couple or a driver professional if the auto has been taken to rental. The decoration discreet dev'essere: a floral composition to be systematized on the back lunotto and nothing more. On board of the auto they will sit, besides the driver, his/her bride accompanied by his/her/their father. From the church to the place of reception, his/her mole-bridegroom can take the guide of the auto, but you/he/she is not obligatory.

THE WEDDING GOWN

The wedding gown is a choice main point, it is the image of the marriage. The shops will make you measure their models and then your suit you/he/she will be manufactured around 2 months before the great day. An analysis of his/her own person will help to individualize the points to valorize and also the defects to be hidden. To try to camouflage the wide sides a suit can slightly be used flared and cut under the breast; the thinnest can dress fluid suits instead, from the slipped line; very wide and fluffy skirts are forbidden to the very low brides instead. In the town hall it is preferable the short suit, perfect the suit, also pant, in the tones of the white, of the cream, of the ivory, of the écru or crayon; who will want him/it, it will be able nevertheless to dress the long suit. The definitive choice has to happen at least three months before the marriage, for possible retouches to the suit and for the choice of the accessories: stockings, shoes, lingerie, gloves, veil, bouquet, possible small earrings. It is here also well to start to look for him/it for time and to let from his/her/their mother to be accompanied, from his/her/their sister or from the friend of the heart, but remembered you that the bridegroom doesn't have to see the wedding dress before the ceremony.



5 MONTHS BEFORE

THE GUESTS' LIST

To this point it needs to word a true list of the guests. To skim or to detail the first sort when it missed one year. This total number will serve from now on you for bomboniere, shares and the whole rest.

I RENT HOUSE

If you have not bought a house this it is the moment to look for the house in lease. You scatter around the voice between your entourage of friends and relatives and you buy specialized newspapers.

BOMBONIERE E SHARES

Here is the moment to choose bomboniere and shares. The bombonieres, distinguish generally him in,: great bomboniere for the guests to the lunch (one to family); averages for people of respect but that you won't invite to lunch and I am sacchettini with a small oggettino; the sacchettinis that you will give not guests to the various people. The pouch of the white sugared almonds and in odd number (3 or 5), dev'essere accompanied by a bigliettino with the names of the bridegrooms, for first that of her. If you desire they are also there the segnapostos that you will put to table. Particular bombonieres to the witnesses and his/her parents are normally delivered. The shares must be delivered or expeditious one to family. With the invitation for the one who you want to invite to the marriage, only the share with the address of the church to whom will come only in the church or to whom want to make to know that you get married you. The times of delivery of the bombonieres and shares it varies from shop to shop.



3 MONTHS BEFORE

FLORAL DECORATIONS AND BOUQUET

The flowers damage an important contribution to the atmosphere of the marriage. Turn to your florist of trust or you look for a florist that knows how to satisfy your demands. You choose the decoration for the church (if you know the couple that he/she gets married him in the same church in the same day you can divide the expenses); the decoration of the front door of his/her/their bride and the bouquet. Everything has to be in tuning, the same flowers are possibly chosen or at least the same colors. The bouquet is ago the last homage that the fiancé to the future bride; it is him to choose him/it and to deliver him/it to house of his/her/their bride, to a narrow relative. In this last case his/her bride, received hardly not the bouquet, you/he/she unthreads a flower of it (white) that you/he/she inserts to the buttonhole of the jacket of the bridegroom. A round and compact bouquet, to small flowers, well it will suit him for a short suit; for the long one, an open and voluminous bouquet or an only flower tightened by ribbons; for one with trailing, a bouquet ricadente; for the suit, a bunch to bundle. Amplissima the choice of the flowers, from the roses to the tulips, up to the small flowers of the fruit trees, to the sunflowers, to the flowers of field. Two the traditions respect to the final fate of the bouquet: the first one wants that at the end of the reception his/her bride launches him/it behind if at random among all the unmarried girls (who will pick him/it up you/he/she should be gotten married within the year); the second wants the bouquet to be brought by the bridegrooms to an altar (possibly of a madonna) immediately after the ceremony in the church and before the bridegrooms reach the saloon with the guests. Dried or turned into pot-pourri it will be a beautiful memory of that day.

THE BRIDEGROOM SUIT

Here is the moment also for him to choose the suit that will bring that day. For a formal ceremony, between the morning and the 18, with his/her bride in white and long suit, the bridegroom should wear the tight, and so his/her fathers, the witnesses and his/her brothers. The tight is composed from a jacket in fresh wool, grey anthracite or black to long tails, that it marks the life and band the sides, always laced. The pantalonis are to lines grigie and black; the gilet, in double breast with revers, it is in light cloth, grey clear (never imagination). The shirt will have double cuffs, I closed from twin, rigid neck, shot starched and raised again angles. The tie will be grey to plastron, stopped by a pin with pearl. In alternative, there is the half tight, of same cut, but without tails. In this case they are not anticipated neither gloves in grey chamois, neither the hat to cylinder, essential in the classical tight.
The stockings will be black or anthracite, in cotton or silk and to the knee, with shoes laced in soft black calf. For a less formal marriage, it also goes very well a classical suit, with jacket rigorously monopetto, without clefts, with pockets to fillet and not to patch, in combed fabric, with gilet and pantaloni without lapel. The shirt will have soft collar and long tie, not grey pearl, but in a lower case letter imagination, for instance to point of pin with pochette of white flax in the small pocket. Accessories: thin black stockings, shoes black Oxford, twin to the wrists and flower to the buttonhole.
The bridegroom can also decide to personalize the ceremony with an unpublished touch in the attire. To absolutely avoid the short and clear sock and the tuxedo, proper for an evening of frill or to a dance, but not to a ceremony.

THE TRIP OF WEDDING

You go to an agency and you take brochure on every part of the world and you decide for time, above all if you marry you in the summer. It is the period in which he marries more and the period to which people go in vacations. You can risk not to find place for what you have chosen on the brochure.

THE HAIRDRESSER

It confirms to your hairdresser of trust the date of your marriage so he/she won't take other appointments for that day and you/he/she can be to your submit disposizione.Quando you to a coiffeur not forgotten to show him the suit (also in photo) so that to be able to foresee the effect of the hair style in combination.



2 MONTHS BEFORE

TESTS DRESSED AND ACCESSORIES

Remember you that once taken the measures won't have to fatten up neither to grow thin! The tests are generally three or four. It needs to also choose the intimate and the shoes (if you can walk us a po for house before the marriage the foot you/he/she will already have gotten used to the shoe). The bag is to avoid in the religious marriage: the hands have to entirely support the bouquet. All of this that can serve to his/her bride is guarded from his/her/their mother or from a friend. In the civil marriage instead the bag is almost necessary and dev'essere in shade with the suit. The stockings have to possibly draw near to the color of the suit and they have to be impalpable. The day of the wedding to verify to have a pair of backup stockings. The hands don't have to be in some way ringed, but free to receive the faith. The engagement ring can be worn to the reception. Only granted jewels, a thin choker in pearls or platinum and small earrings of diamond. The gloves confer importance to the suit: short to the wrist or long to the elbow, of end or kidskin, in tulle or shaves. Not you forget that after the entry in the church you/they must have supported on the inginocchiatoio close to the bouquet. Remember you that the tradition wants: a lent thing, a given as a present thing, a blue thing, an old thing and a new thing. Besides a banknote in the shoe brings money!!!!

TO SEND THE SHARES

It is the moment to send the shares, people are had to organize. Not insert the bigliettino of the list of wedding in the share (it is of bad taste). The same guests will ask if you have deposited a list or no.

THE LIST OF WEDDING

It is advisable to deposit a list of wedding to avoid duplicates, to not only have pleasant gifts to you but also for the one who has to face the problem of thing to give you. For first thing you decide that kind of gifts you want to receive (home, appliances, etc.) and prepared an informal list of the objects that you want to put in list. Then you will go you to the shop and the manager it will help you to choose. You deposit the list before the shares arrive. The people will hardly arrive they will start to ask you some gift.

THE WITNESSES

For the law they are enough only two witnesses. It is common custom to choose four of them or even you are. They have to be of age and their only appointment is the signature on the book at the end of the ceremony that guarantees legality. But the affective appointment goes over the formal appointment. You try to know if the person that you have chosen desires to cover this role. Also choose so that us anybody doesn't remain badly.



1 MONTH BEFORE

THE TEST FROM THE HAIRDRESSER

Around one month first your hairdresser will summon you for the test of the hair style and the makeup abreast of the suit that you have chosen.

TO DECIDE THE MENU

If you have not decided the menù when you have booked the restaurant it is the moment to do him/it. You can decide a base menù of fish, of alone meat or fish and meat. You will so also decide the price. The prices of the press of the menù and the decorations of the tables that are able not to be inclusive also arrange.

THE FAITHS

Now it is the time of the faiths. At times a witness gives her. The pad of the faiths is mandatory, it is possible that I/you/he/she lend him/it to you some friend that is gotten married already, otherwise it is purchased where you have purchased the suit or in the shops of bomboniere.



2 WEEKS BEFORE

THE GUESTS' CONFIRMATIONS

It misses really little. Many will already have given you answer if they will come or no to your marriage, but someone will be still in perhaps or you/he/she won't be made to feel. Calls you, making to understand that the refreshing one wants a certain answer.



1 WEEK BEFORE

YOU DETAIL WITH PHOTOGRAPHER

You serve a jump as the photographer to define the details on your photographic service. You will choose together the places where you will go off your photos.

TO CONFIRM THE NUMBER OF THE GUESTS IS TO ORGANIZE THE PLACES Á. TAVOLA

Around a week before (it depends on the restaurant) the manager wants to know the exact number of the guests to the lunch. Contemporarily you will have to fix the places to table. It is common custom to assign the places, avoiding that someone is to table with unknown people or indesiderate. Move you with prudence in the choice not to make to pass an ugly day to anybody.



WEEKEND BEFORE

REST

The last week end before the great day is of rest, obviously if you are not back with the preparations. Rest and enough.



3 DAYS BEFORE

THE WEDDING GOWN ARRIVES

The wedding gown arrives, stretched and manufactured. It is a bulky po…

PARTY ON THE PLACE OF EMPLOYMENT

Last day of job before the vacations. They are up to you 15 days for law of matrimonial dismissal. You organize a small refreshment for the colleagues. You deliver a sacchettino of sugared almonds to each.



2 DAYS BEFORE

GOODBYE Á. THE BACHELORHOOD È Á. THE SPINSTERHOOD

If you have intention to celebrate the goodbye to the bachelorhood and the spinsterhood I recommend you not to organize him/it the day not to get tired too much you before and not to have an aspect I get tired later the day. To you the choice on thing to do with the friends or the friends: a pizza, a supper, disco, etc, the choice is ample.

BEAUTICIAN

The depilation and the pedicure it is clearly mandatory. The manicure, he generally, devotes time the morning of the marriage. The hands are in the foreground and they have to be perfect.



THE DAY BEFORE

The day before you won't have to do a lot. Relax and no stresses are the words of order. You will have only to define the few particular that you/they remain. If you will very probably deliver the bombonieres during the lunch the refreshing one he/she will ask you to deliver him her the day before.



THE SAME DAY

Here, finally the great day and all you/he/she has arrived they will be around you: the hairdresser, the photographer, the florist that the bouquet will deliver you. The car arrives….. Everything is ready can go…..!!!!!!!!



1 MONTH LATER

THE TICKETS OF THANKS

Bentornati!!! You have returned from the trip of wedding, relaxed and rested. The last appointment that he/she remains you is to send the bigliettinis of thanks to all those people that have made you a gift or the wishes or a telegram.